tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24263250.post7934476038966828480..comments2023-12-17T04:39:16.410-07:00Comments on BITING BACK: Blog of The Practical Vampire Slayer: The Heart Of Practical Vampire Slaying, Part II: More On Those Inner VampsPVShttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08067264150044839249noreply@blogger.comBlogger18125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24263250.post-63704850916001297752008-04-01T10:31:00.000-06:002008-04-01T10:31:00.000-06:00Wow and Hi, Nicole! How wonderful to hear from yo...Wow and Hi, Nicole! How wonderful to hear from you. <BR/><BR/>I know what you mean about how freeing it is to finally be clear with yourself and understand what you are willing to lose (although we usually can't even begin to guess how much we're about to gain! That's the heaven of it, no? :))<BR/>to be free -- I can remember feeling as if stones were taken off my chest the first time I consciously did this -- stones I didn't even know where there. And as with your mother, it is always an act of great faith -- even if we don't know it at the time.<BR/><BR/>As to your rending of garments and gnashing of teeth (you're funny!) -- I devote much of one chapter in my book to the importance of giving ourselves plenty of time to stay with the vampire, even after we realize what we're dealing with. As with all things in life, we are ready only when we're ready, and there's no point in telling ourselves it should be any sooner than the perfect moment that it will (or perhaps will never) be.<BR/><BR/>Lovely to hear from you!!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24263250.post-74183081159559252892008-04-01T10:18:00.000-06:002008-04-01T10:18:00.000-06:00Oh my goodness! A friend sent me to your blog, and...Oh my goodness! A friend sent me to your blog, and when I got to this post, I knew why. I just got to realize this very thing...for real this time. I think I've had inklings that I was carrying around old stuff and whipping it out at any sign of conflict in the present, but until I went to codependents anonymous and had a sponsor stare me down and say, "Are you hearing this?" I really never had the eureka moment.<BR/><BR/>The day I forgave my mom for the past...out loud...and walked away from the old relationship (because the WHOLE relationship was built on the pattern of this struggle), was the day that my life really changed...the paradigm shifted...and I became responsible for my own actions, and, as you say in your headnote, what (or whom) I allow into my life. Ah!<BR/><BR/>Also, I saw your comment about the relationship. WOW. I have felt this too. Currently feel this. And feel like a jerk b/c his mouth keeps saying "stay," but everything he does makes me want to rent garments and gnash teeth. And so, I continue to take responsibility for my role in the relationship and prepare myself to go when I'm ready if I still need to when I am. Something also tells me he won't bother me so much if I don't "play the game" with him. Then, he might just leave on his own. Wish me luck! <BR/><BR/>Thanks for the post, and congrats on a great blog! =DNicolehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15740562889506321916noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24263250.post-76273846589674007502008-03-13T11:30:00.000-06:002008-03-13T11:30:00.000-06:00Hi Anon, and please forgive my late reply!I'm not ...Hi Anon, and please forgive my late reply!<BR/><BR/>I'm not getting notification of comments these days from blogger...can't say why<BR/><BR/>But in any case, thank you so much for your kind wishes and kind thoughts on the post. It was lovely of you to take the time to write, 'cause it really made me feel great!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24263250.post-12608166122795723082008-02-04T14:44:00.000-07:002008-02-04T14:44:00.000-07:00First of all, I want to say how relieved I am to r...First of all, I want to say how relieved I am to read that there is no sign of cancer anywhere else in your body. I will continue to think good thoughts for your regarding the breast cancer, but you seem pretty tough so I'm not sure that you'll need it. Secondly, I wanted to write and let you know how wonderful and insightful I thought your perspective was on the argument between the mother and daughter. I found what you said to be very true, many of our present arguments are truley built up arguments from the past. Luckily it seems as though life provides us with many different circumstances and opportunities to resovle the issues that are really at hand. I hope the mother and daughter have a chance to read your column because often it helps to see things from a diiferent point of view. Thanks for sharing this story.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24263250.post-10368678012864293772007-11-20T21:32:00.000-07:002007-11-20T21:32:00.000-07:00Oh it sickens me to say this, but Blood On The Tra...Oh it sickens me to say this, but Blood On The Tracks was one of the ones I never bought -- I know -- don't say it. Because I know. <BR/><BR/>Sigh.<BR/><BR/>Try this one: "Groundhog running by a country stream, this must be the day that all of my dreams come true."<BR/><BR/>Every time he sings that, I get a lump in my throat.<BR/><BR/>The groundhog works for me.<BR/><BR/>Going out in the rain and snow now to buy Blood On The Tracks.<BR/><BR/>For shame, Claud!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24263250.post-21491126031395424242007-11-20T19:51:00.000-07:002007-11-20T19:51:00.000-07:00Well, ahem, I am certainly glad to know that my re...Well, ahem, I am certainly glad to know that my reputation for virtue precedes me!<BR/><BR/>How 'bout "I wish I was on some Australian mountain range. I got no reason to be there, but I imagine it would be some kind of change."<BR/><BR/>I'm sure it wasn't Ella, but it kinda sounded like her. It was very pretty. That's one of my favorites of the sentimental side of Bob.<BR/><BR/><BR/>p.s.<BR/>One sets a place (or usually just a glass of wine) in case the prophet Elijah returns. And is, you know, thirsty. But the Ghost of Everything Past probably wants that glass of wine more.Feemushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01333137107196677329noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24263250.post-28927899896108474202007-11-20T17:48:00.000-07:002007-11-20T17:48:00.000-07:00A timely post indeed, Feemus. Rah-thuh.And you kn...A timely post indeed, Feemus. Rah-thuh.<BR/><BR/>And you know I thought about mailing you an illegal copy of my Nashville Skyline, but I thought, "that virtuous Feemus, he'd NEVER like me again if I did THAT." <BR/>You know, I'm not sure life gets any better than when Bob sings, "...if there's a poor boy on the street, then let him have my seat, cause tonight I'll be staying here with you." <BR/>Some song.<BR/>Some singer.<BR/>Man.<BR/><BR/>Now to go see if I can find that Ella F. tune. Or whoever. <BR/><BR/>p.s. who's Elijah?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24263250.post-75226181756271125372007-11-20T17:32:00.000-07:002007-11-20T17:32:00.000-07:00A timely post for the holidays, Claud!!! Thanksgiv...A timely post for the holidays, Claud!!! <BR/><BR/>Thanksgiving, when the ghost of EVERYTHING past sits down to dinner. Even though I set that extra plate for Elijah!<BR/><BR/>Thought about you yesterday when I heard the oddest cover of "You're Gonna Make Me Lonesome When You Go." The vocalist sounded a little like Ella Fitzgerald. I don't know who it was. But it made me think of you.<BR/><BR/>I bought Nashville Syline last week. That's a great version of Girl From North Country--thanks.Feemushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01333137107196677329noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24263250.post-29188431721108217622007-11-19T11:31:00.000-07:002007-11-19T11:31:00.000-07:00Hi Jaye! And when I pay attention, especially whe...Hi Jaye! And when I pay attention, especially when I'm saying something naggy or impatient with someone I love, I can hear all the old vampires in there, having their petty little say. It's amazing how much unrelated crap they can bring to a situation, you know?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24263250.post-9758696266648591212007-11-19T10:55:00.000-07:002007-11-19T10:55:00.000-07:00Another excellent and thought-provoking post. Havi...Another excellent and thought-provoking post. Having been int he middle of a few of these myself, your word really hit home.Jaye Wellshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09407478042834459126noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24263250.post-21309554083943625152007-11-15T19:47:00.000-07:002007-11-15T19:47:00.000-07:00Tag! You're it.Tag! You're it.Angelahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12153878171712341666noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24263250.post-43516012561805928302007-11-15T12:36:00.000-07:002007-11-15T12:36:00.000-07:00Thanks, Jen. I'm sorta interested to see what the ...Thanks, Jen. I'm sorta interested to see what the next post says, too. :0Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24263250.post-63312434129313588892007-11-15T11:31:00.000-07:002007-11-15T11:31:00.000-07:00Soooo true, and so well said. I couldn't agree mo...Soooo true, and so well said. I couldn't agree more, and like the others, I can't wait for the next post!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24263250.post-4634988115207690712007-11-15T10:20:00.000-07:002007-11-15T10:20:00.000-07:00Thank you kindly, Miss A.And thank YOU kindly, Mr....Thank you kindly, Miss A.<BR/><BR/>And thank YOU kindly, Mr. D. You state things pretty nice yourself!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24263250.post-80497994183161420902007-11-15T10:12:00.000-07:002007-11-15T10:12:00.000-07:00Wait a minute...Are we talking about interpersonal...Wait a minute...<BR/><BR/>Are we talking about interpersonal relationships or the history of Israeli-Middle Eastern conflict?<BR/><BR/>It's a post. It's a parable.<BR/><BR/>Nicely stated, Ms. Claud.Dwight's Writing Manifestohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11583719276706757556noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24263250.post-44164531413498931192007-11-14T22:23:00.000-07:002007-11-14T22:23:00.000-07:00Great post, Claudia, about the ways our vampires c...Great post, Claudia, about the ways our vampires can manifest and just suck away. I especially like the visual of it NOT REALLY BEING THE TWO PEOPLE, but their vampires. And how the heart of a vampire argument lives and breathes in the present moment no matter how old it is. And how vampires have higher selves just like all the rest of us. Good stuff!Angelahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12153878171712341666noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24263250.post-75727464603312333352007-11-14T13:12:00.000-07:002007-11-14T13:12:00.000-07:00Oh Sherri I'm so pleased! I mean, that this is a ...Oh Sherri I'm so pleased! I mean, that this is a good post for you. Not that the vamps are out for your blood. <BR/><BR/>Sometimes I think that the vampires who seem to fight the hardest to stay in the dark are the ones begging the hardest to be brought out. <BR/><BR/>I remember when I was struggling with a relationship breakup -- a break I wanted to make but my vampire didn't. We'd been so mean to eachother for years, and it occurred to me one day that although his mouth was saying, "don't leave," his actions had been saying for years -- PLEASE GET OUT! If vampires have a "higher self" I think that was his operating -- the part of him that wanted to be released, brought into the light and staked "good and proper" as Spike would say.<BR/><BR/>And btw, I DO believe vampires have a higher self, a soul that is obscured by their disease -- their vampirism. It's freed when they're staked, hence their reportedly "peaceful expressions" after staking...sniff! :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24263250.post-81334333134862335862007-11-14T12:50:00.000-07:002007-11-14T12:50:00.000-07:00It's as if you wrote this post for me, though it's...It's as if you wrote this post for me, though it's not my situation you're describing. I'm struggling with some vampires from the past, who just do not want to come into the light! I can't wait to see your next post.Sherrihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10290552411541483729noreply@blogger.com